Femdom talk

16 05 2014

Position Manual for submissive males – Position 9: Punishment

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This is for sure an important one as well. Astonishingly, it is one of the newest positions. Maybe that is because I used all different types of punishment positions before. You may have Your variations as well but it sure is important to have like one “official” position for punishment that the slave will adopt automatically upon Your command without a second thought. Is there anything more important for a slave than his readiness for the Mistress’s punishment? Well, now thinking about it: his eagerness to serve the Mistress maybe.

I generally want all the positions to be assumable without any furniture/pillars so they can be used anywhere, anytime. The Mistress might add toys and equipment for Her pleasure if She has them at hand, but the positions should be usable without them.

In Punishment Position the bottom of the slave should be easily accessible. So, as you see on picture, he will be standing, bent, with his hands on the knees, waiting for he Mistress to choose if She will hit the bottom or the back.

Punishment Position however has a possible variation: depending on the severity of the impending punishment and the spatial conditions at hand, I might want to tie the slave up. In this case I will combine the command with pointing My index finger to the piece of furniture, torture device or whatever, to which I want to affix the slave. He will then bend over that with his ass at the highest spot and his wrists and ankles next to the best fixing opportunities.

The hand symbol for this command looks like the Mistress is holding a punishment implement, like a cane or a whip, ready to strike the slave with it.

12 05 2014

Position Manual for submissive males – Position 8: Handcuffs

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This is more of a practical, technical position, used for your convenience, not as symbolic as “Collaring” for example. Ever so often you will want to shackle his arms. May it be as a preparation for a whipping, may it be to keep him shackled in a dungeon, whatever. “Handcuffs” is simply the easiest position for you to do so.

The slave will kneel in front of you, his eyes chastely cast down. He will stretch out his forearms towards you, palms up, as always. You can then easily apply handcuffs, arm restraints or a chain around his wrists.

The hand sign of the Mistress symbolizes the act of taking him. She puts forth her right hand, palm up, and then closes the fingers to form a fist. This says: ” I grab you, I take you under my control.”

Some slaves pathetically hold their arms up and add all kind of silly useless variations to “Handcuffs”. Well, they just shouldn’t. It is nothing but a convenient position for you to shackle their arms. Nothing more. Period.

Due to the fact that this week’s position has been published with a delay, the picture for the contest can be sent until Friday, 23 of May (instead of 16th of May).

02 05 2014

Position Manual for submissive males – Position 7: Heel

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The name of this position might be a bit misleading but I like it anyway. Very much I do. I chose that name because “Heel!” is the most popular command for every dog and with this command the slave shall come as close to being a dog as at all possible. So it is the most “doggish” of all commands in the manual. This is why it is for sure one of My favorites.

“Heel!” is a general “multi purpose” position, basically to call him to the spot. The slave will get on all fours beside his Mistress, to Her left. his head will be close to her left thigh but in any case not touch it! Once she moves, he follows her on all fours, same pace, remaining with his head next to her left knee, closely watching her feet as she walks. The slave will of course make sure, that his head is a bit behind and never in front of her. he shall never make the impression to lead but always to be led.

The gesture for Heel! is one that every dog owner knows and will use instinctively. The Mistress twice claps her hand against the outside of her right thigh. So she demonstrates, where she wants the slaves head to be. I know that the command calls him to her legs and not really to her heels. Heel! just sounds so nice to my ears. I love it, when they are like dogs…

25 04 2014

Position Manual for submissive males – Position 6: Ashtray

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This is a very useful position even for the non-smokers amongst you. As you have noticed already, there are positions for every body opening of the slave to present himself to you in all openness and vulnerability. This one here is for the mouth. In Ashtray he will bend his head back and open his mouth wide to be ready to receive whatever you feel like throwing into it. Cigarette ash, the butt of your cigarette, your spit, the warm golden liquid that is much to precious to be flushed down the toilet…

Note that he will not have permission to swallow until given expressly. This is especially nice with insertions that leave a bad taste in his mouth so he will have to fight the urge to put away with it. Having him carry the ash of a whole cigarette in his snout is wonderful. As you deliciously inhale your draws you will calmly watch his ever intensifying inconvenience. His mouth will soon dry out and the desire for a simple gulp will become overwhelming. Combines nicely with a golden shower after you´re finished with the cigarette.

The hand symbol for this command is self explaining. The indication finger of the Mistress moves quickly up and down as if she was detaching some ash from the tip of her cigarette.

Some useful advice if you want to stub out a cigarette on his tongue: If you want to help him, spit into his mouth just before applying the cigarette and tell him not to swallow. The additional saliva in his mouth will protect his tongue from the heat of the glow. If on the other hand, he needs severe punishment, wipe his tongue dry before the act. The dry tongue will be burnt immediately giving him something to remember for days.

18 04 2014

Position Manual for submissive males – Position 5: Present chastity / present balls

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“Present balls”: In this position the slave will be on his knees, upright position, facing the Mistress. His left hand will be behind his back and he will show his cock and balls to you supported by his stretched out right hand.

Let him offer his most precious parts to You for inspection. Presenting his balls, he shows that he knows that they are truely yours. Yours to grab, to squeeze, to whip, to caress, to kick, to wank them. Whatever you feel like doing to them and so to him.

The command with the hand is once more easy to understand and thus to remember: The Mistresses right indication finger points at the slaves genitals and slowly moves up and down to symbolize the presentation act.

When he is in chastity it is the same command only with a different name: “Present chastity“. This is to keep him aware that he does not have balls to show any more. All that is left of him is only a pathetic cock in chastity. By putting him into chastity you have in fact taken his manhood from him. Over time he will become grateful that you did so. Because there is no stronger means of control over the male and therefore no stronger bond that could tie him to you. Control his sexuality and you will automatically control the whole guy. Believe me, this is waterproof, no doubt about it. It is as easy as that.

You will wear the key of the chastity device as your trophy and as the symbol of his virility on a chain around your neck. There is no stronger symbol of your ownership. Play around with the key when he is able to take notice, twirl it on the chain, touch it, maybe even hold it between your lips. He will know and feel in his cock what this means, you are playing with your power over him. This will absolutely arouse and frustrate him same time. And this is the status that you are really after: “aroused frustration”. It sounds like a contradiction in itself but in fact it isn´t. It is the state of mind that brings the “strong sex” down on its knees and makes them what they eventually all have to become sooner or later if we play this cool: Warm wax in our firm hands.

See that he always uses the right hand to present the balls, never the left. Don´t compromise on details. Details are so important! Extremely important! Letting go on little details is like leaving a little hole in the wall of control that you completely want to put around him. And believe Me, leaving the little hole, even if it may seem so tiny that it is hardly recognizable, will invite him to scratch and dig and drill in order to ever widen it. And if you allow him to do, one day the hole will inevitably have become big enough for him to escape through it. And you will not want that to happen. So, painstakingly look for the smallest cracks in the walls of obedience to immediately seal them once and forever.

11 04 2014

Position Manual for submissive males – Position 4: Doormat

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The name tells it all. He is her doormat. The slave will lay on his back in front of the Mistress. His belly should be close to her feet. His arms are stretched out on his side, palms – as in most postions- showing up.

Use the doormat to clean your shoes. Step on it. Great position to start some breathtaking smothering too…

The sign with the hands is simple. The Mistress will move her open hand, palm up, from left to right and back. Her hand so symbolizes the lying slave.

04 04 2014

Position Manual for submissive males – Position 3: Collaring

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This is what I call the sacred position. The collaring is the divine moment of transformation. The friction of the second in which you and your sub change like in a holy sacrament. You become the Owner, the Mistress, the Keeper. He becomes the slave, the object, the dog. Once the collar is around his neck, he is yours. Collaring is the strongest symbol of ownership. The dog collar that stands for his position as a slave, an animal, nothing but owned property.

In collaring, the slave kneels in front of me, upright position, hands behind his back, eyes down, humble. He will be waiting until I approach him and close the band around his neck.

Always cherish this very special moment. Take your time. Think of a high priestess performing a sacred ceremony in front of her believers and followers. Move slowly, make little pauses. Make sure that he is able to hear and understand the little “click” of the closing lock around his neck. By doing so, you will engrave the extreme significance of this ritual into his slavish mind.

The gesture for „Collaring“ should once more be easy to remember for you and your slave. You put forth your right hand and then close it to clench your fist. The symbol is „I am taking you, I am grabbing Your soul never to let it loose again.“

For Me, the first collaring is a very special one. Because once I collar a slave for the first time I make him Mine. And that is forever, or rather as long as I want it to last. And as this first time is so important, I have a special ritual for that: I first lay the open collar across My lap while My slave kneels in front of Me. Then the slave will stoop down and lay his head on my lap, face down, so that his throat lays on the collar. His head in my lap like a little child. he is offering himself, he smells My crotch, his body asks Me to close the collar and so to make him Mine.

30 03 2014

About branding and slavery

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I must admit that I’m fascinated by slavery. Slavery not in the sense that it has during a 60-minute session in a professional Domina studio. But slavery in the sense it had in Ancient Rome or on the cotton plantations of nineteenth-century southern USA. I know, back then was not consensual but still, I can’t help Myself not to be fascinated by it.

For Me there is nothing more arousing then the transition of a male human being into a slave. My life partner is very good example. When I met him, he used to be a man. A man with a job to make a living, a man with his own money to spend, a man taking his own decisions. This now all is long gone. He gave up his job to have more time to serve Me. If he wants to pay for the drinks on a night out with his friends. he has to ask Me for some money first. Because he doesn’t own money anymore. He does not take decisions anymore on his own. If there is something to decide, he asks for My decision to then follow that precisely and without discussions. Seeing him so dependent on Me, sometimes is a bit laborious but it is also absolutely arousing. I do not want to have that anyway different.

Slavery needs to be recognizable at all times. The slave has to be clearly marked as such, for My pleasure and excitement, for his degradation and sometimes also for the attention of the general public. What is important in any case is, that the marking is irreversible. It symbolizes the status of the enslaved male, which is irreversible as well. Once become a slave, he will slave until he dies. Once marked, the mark will stay on him just as long.

There are several ways to do so and it is of course possible to combine them. The marking that does the job best for My taste is the branding. The symbolism of the branding is so strong: Branded like cattle, the slave really becomes his Mistress beast of burden. Compared to tattooing, the ceremony is so much more charming: The slave strictly tied to a comfortable bench with his naked ass protruded. Expectantly he is waiting for the red hot iron. Holding his breath. How alluring to ever extend his waiting phase in order to even increase the excitement of his owner and the slavish fear. Showing him the iron, first when it is still cold, presenting it for his kisses, then after it has been heated up to 900 degrees Celsius in the open fireplace. Tenderly describing in detail what will happen to him, whispering those endearing words of cruelty into his ears. Once more caressing his soft and white skin just at the very spot where it will soon be burnt to never recover again. Then the fizzling sound as the glowing steel meets the flesh. The smell of burning meat. The muffle screams of the slave in pain, the awareness of the finality of the procedure… Everybody who has ever witnessed the ritual will agree how oh so very wonderful this is. Much nicer than even the most beautiful necklace tattooed on his chest. No comparison even to a forged steel collar never to be removed. I love the branding!

28 03 2014

Position Manual for submissive males – Position 2: Inspection

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This will usually be the second position he will assume after Waiting. His hands behinds his back, at least stripped to the waist (if not fully naked) he will present his body for your inspection. Make sure that he holds himself very straight, doing a hollow back, in no case bent forward or with a round back. His whole body must speak of tension, readiness, awareness, attendence for you.

The meaning of the Mistress’s gesture to symbolize the position is obvious. Her two opening and closing fingers silently say “Spread your legs … make yourself available for My inspection”.

21 03 2014

Position Manual for submissive males – Position 1: Waiting

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This is maybe the most important of them all. At least the one that you will use most often. Because as W/we all know the slave´s live is waiting and he sure will do so in Waiting Position.

The position of the head and the hands is of paramount importance here. Face down on the floor, palms up. By opening his palms to his Mistress the slaves shows his openness, his readiness to receive whatever she has to offer. Never let him get away with showing you the backside of his hands when in Waiting Position. I really cannot understand why so many people get that simple thing wrong.

The gesture translates the message of the position into body language. The Mistress´s hand says, “get down and then stay where you are”. The moving hand subdues the slaves body but at the same time is also protective, it says “submit to My power and show that you are Mine.”

Remember, I talked about the slave communicating with his Mistress in the beginning? This is a perfect example how he does. his open palms showing upwards match Her palms facing down. If it goes right, there will be a flow of energy between the dominant palm and the mirroring submissive palm. The body of the slave communicates his submission to the Mistress even though he does not speak, of course not. he will never speak when in Waiting position, this is an absolute no-go. Speaking would destroy his tension. he will not even be allowed to look up when in waiting position.