13 motivations for being a submissive by medor
I consider power exchange relationships natural and I don’t think it is important to find reasons WHY a male would choose to submit to a Dominant Woman other than the desire to please Her out of adoration and love. However, some of My boys needed to explain their desire to be submissive. What do you think?
1 – Humiliation
You like to be embarrassed or even degraded, treated as an object, as less than what you are, by a more powerful partner.
Examples: your partner pulls you with a leash in the street, gives you a slap or a spanking in a public place … Feelings of admiration, adoration, reverence, devotion, idolatry, for the beloved woman, that you compare easily to a “goddess” : as you love Her. it’s so natural to put Her “on a pedestal” !
2 – Service
You love to meet the needs of others as a good servant should do.
Examples: light a cigarette, bring a drink, wash the dishes, do the housework, offer gifts to your owner
3 – Masochism
You like feeling pain in an erotic and sexual context. Could be because some pains, mild or strong, excite you sexually (endorphin), or because you enjoy the psychological turmoil of having to suffer for the other.
Examples: being whipped, having your nipples torture
4 – Loss of control
You like to be out of your own control, you like having to obey the will of another, you like to have no choice.
Examples: bondage, pet play
5 – Emotional Security
You like to feel confident and in intimacy, not to have to make decisions, to be appreciated and cherished, the fact that it’s your partner – not you – who is responsible, to have the impression you have arrived to destination.
Examples : to feel ourselves protected; not to worry about spending and payments; to appreciate that your partner wants to keep you under control and to knoweverything about yourself and your life.
6 – Being defeated
You like fighting an attractive person who is stronger than you, physically, emotionally or mentally, and then, having lost that fight, having to pay the price or suffer the consequences.
Examples: fantasy of being hunted, chased for a long time, and forced; or a firm discussion with your partner until she forces you to shut up in one way or another.
7 – Being raped
You like the sensation of an extreme rape game and all that it implies: surprise, pain, fear, inability to flee.
Examples : scenarios of kidnapping and rape, sodomy
8 – Self-destruction
It is a mostly unconscious motivation, but it should be included here because a small but significant number of subjects are submissive for that reason. They feel despicable and abominable, so it would be justice if someone rejected them, hurt them or even killed them.
Example: permanent imprisonment fantasy
9 – Sexual Intensity
You like to flirt with danger, experience very intense emotions, feel so incredibly alive, be pushed to extreme limits of your ability to endure pain in all lucidity… You like it because it is taboo, vicious and perverse.
Examples: a simple curiosity (what can I tolerate or endure?), extreme S & M scenes, like scat play, very strong electric torture, branding with a knife or hot iron
10 – Fetish
You are attracted by certain objects, up to adoration of these objects.
Examples: latex, women’s underwear, dirty panties, smell and feel of leather.
11 – Narcissism
You want to be the center of attention. Each of your fears and wishes are listened to carefully by your partner, if not met. During sexual activity, you are often shown to other slaves and Mistresses, by a prestigious Dominatrix. She publishes “your” clips, your writing. In reality you are treated with care like a precious treasure !
12 – Spirituality
Some people consider pain and SM as a spiritual exercise, a way to grow spiritually
Example : stoicism, flagellants in the Middle Ages
13 – Intimacy and Love
This goes much further than the “emotional security” mentioned above. Many people yearn intimacy but not particularly security. Intimacy is sharing ideas and experiences, giving to a woman (someone) a substantial place in his head, confide her all your thoughts and innermost desires, good or bad.
Example : in the course of permanent SM relationship, special but very deep intimacy develops gradually. You love your partner, and you love the love your partner
might feel gradually for you.
Please, give your personal feeling about each possible motivation:
0=not at all, 1=very little, 2=a little, 3=actually, 4=a lot, 5=extremely
1 – Humiliation
2 – Service
3 -Masochism
4 – Loss of control
5 – Emotional security
6 – Being defeated
7 – Being raped
8 – Self-destruction
9 – Sexual intensity
10 – Fetish
11 – Narcissism
12 – Spirituality
13 – Intimacy and love
by medor
Garrett
02.08.2017 @ 04:54
GODDESS EZADA, I have enjoyed countless hours enjoying your photos and clips. I wish to some day find a dominant woman close to me to enjoy this lifestyle with. The 13 for me:
1. 1 in public, 5 in private.
2. 5
3. 4
4. 5
5. 4
6. 2
7. 1
8. 1
9. 2
10. 5
11. 0
12. 1
13. 5
Brian
03.08.2017 @ 14:43
You wear the best looking pantyhose!! They are very shiny and look great on you!!!!
Ezada
06.08.2017 @ 14:45
thanks
Ezada
06.08.2017 @ 14:47
Nice!
Good luck in finding your Owner. BDSM is much more intense and fulfilling when you are in a happy, long term D/s relationship.
nuli
11.08.2017 @ 03:23
Gossess Ezada Sinn is my only Goddess. In front of Her nuli likes to have
1 – Humiliation 5
2 – Service 5
3 -Masochism 5
4 – Loss of control 5
5 – Emotional security 5
6 – Being defeated 5
7 – Being raped 5
8 – Self-destruction 5
9 – Sexual intensity 5
10 – Fetish 5
11 – Narcissism 5
12 – Spirituality 5
13 – Intimacy and love 5
Ezada
11.08.2017 @ 15:07
aww…My slave nuli!
SDT
13.08.2017 @ 00:10
Hi Goddess Ezada ,,,
I love everything about you . This is from your slave T .
1 – Humiliation 4 .
2 – Service 5 .
3 -Masochism 5 .
4 – Loss of control 5 .
5 – Emotional security 4 .
6 – Being defeated 3 .
7 – Being raped 3 .
8 – Self-destruction 5 .
9 – Sexual intensity 5 .
10 – Fetish 5 .
11 – Narcissism 4 .
12 – Spirituality 0 .
13 – Intimacy and love 5 .
Hope Goddess I help a little .
Thank you
nuli
13.08.2017 @ 16:59
nuli does not dare to tell a lie before my greatest Goddess. nuli just put his fate to the hand of Goddess Ezada. Anything Goddess chooses for nuli, nuli will have extremely strong feeling for it.
Ezada
15.08.2017 @ 13:26
I appreciate very much service oriented slaves
Bobby
17.11.2017 @ 22:37
I️ long to please and serve all women! Anything I’m capable of doing for her pleasure gives me great pleasure!
greatslave1962
01.09.2018 @ 09:46
From Your devoted greatslave1962
1. Yes I dream about being degraded and treated as an object by a dominant woman (or more women). I totally agree with the examples. My only problem is that I can’t express it in public. 5
2. Yes, mistress (as superior human being) should expect of lower submissive male slaves to meet Her needs, as those in the examples. 5
3. Masochism is part of BDSM and the pain induced by a Mistress should be an acceptance of the Women superiority. I don’t think that such practices have sexual content. I think that by accepting punishments, a submissive male accepts the rule of the Female Supremacy. There can’t be a sexual relationship between a dominant woman and a humble male slave. 0
4. Loss of control is another example of letting your Mistress to rule the situation. Is a case of full confidence and obedience. 5
5. I must confess that I prefer not to make decisions and I let my partner to be responsible. 5
6. I don’t have the ambition of fighting against someone who’s stronger emotionally or mentally. 4
7. I dream of that but, in the same time I think that that I’m not prepared for that. Maybe an experienced Mistress should convince me for that. In the case of sodomy, in my opinion, rape is not so sure. Most likely a submissive male should agree to be sodomized by his mistress. 2
8. Yes, this could be a motivation. I think that mostly middle age men that can’t do sex anymore choose this way to punish themselves. 5
9. I think that everyone is curious to discover his limits in enduring pain. But I think that to suffer can be also a perverse pleasure. 5
10. I am attracted by leather clothing, but only if they are worn by a woman. 3
11. I don’t consider that this can be a motivation. 0
12. Yes this can be a spiritual exercise. 5
13. Intimacy and love are very important. 5
Ezada
01.09.2018 @ 14:41
I like your views
Mark
03.10.2019 @ 22:34
Mistress Ezada is it true that looking at porn including your videos or adding you to Facebook is seen as abusing someone? I question it because for me understanding what makes a woman the person she is or why she chose a mistress lifestyle is not the same as abusing someone on Facebook normal abuse would include trolling or talking about sex too often but there are different ways to abuse people as a Goddess I thought your opinion might help. Yes I do like your videos.
joslave
20.02.2020 @ 02:37
Humiliation 5, service 5, masochisme2, perte de contrôle 4, sécurité émotionnelle 5,- être vaincu 4, être violé 3, autodestruction 5, intensité sexuelle 2, fétiche 5, narcissisme 2, spiritualité 2 , intimité et amour 5…
Maitresse Ezada le soumis inexpérimenté que je suis , trouve dans votre blog beaucoup de compréhension , de réponses aux questions intimes que je me pose sur ma vraie nature …. Vous êtes éclairante et votre questionnaire fait réfléchir…..les esclaves que vous dirigez ont beaucoup de chance . Votre beauté,Votre intelligence et vos qualités « humaines » font de Vous une Maitresse exceptionnelle…….
GoddessEzadaBeliever
23.04.2020 @ 03:15
My Goddess: with shame I recognize that I have recently discovered your blog and that I deserve the punishment that you decide. Will you authorize me to comment on this entry?
Ali
23.05.2021 @ 23:28
As a middle eastern guy I hate that i have been taught that because i have balls i must dominate women. I like to be humiliated by women i love watching them in charge.
Yes i want to serve her to make her happy and get rewarded like being pegged or release me from chasity.
About rape it’s not a rape but i like to feel as she peg me whenever she want.
After all i hate that pegging is emasculating me Yet i ask for it and she knows that.