About love in My D/s relationships
People often ask Me, whether there can be love in a D/s relationship. And quite often they are then surprised about My answer: Love is not only an option but a condition and the foundation of a true D/s relationship.
For people with a vanilla background this is hard to understand. How can it be love when a woman in leather boots severely whips a male who is tied to a whipping post and screaming in pain? How can a man feel love for a woman who finds pleasure in letting him crawl behind her on a dog leash during her high street shopping tour?
But not only vanilla people are astonished when I tell them about love in a D/s relationship. Sometimes fellow professional Mistresses express their reservation too. For some the submissive male is an anonymous client in the best case. More often than not he is just a worthless and despised irrelevant piece of crap.
For Me, this is totally different. And maybe this one of the main reasons that professional sessions with men that I do not have a personal relationship with have become rather uninteresting for Me.
Enduring pain and humiliation for the true submissive is not a means to selfishly satisfy hinmself and his male lust. It is a means to show the Domina that he endures that for Her. It is nothing but a proof of love. Without a love deeply felt and routed and founded within himself he could not go through all that. The whipping, the pain, the humiliation, the degradation. Only love can carry him through that. So in the whipping the message of the Dom is (at least in general) not “I torture you because I want to punish you” it is definitely not “I torture you because I hate you.”. It is “I torture you so that you can show your love to Me.” As incomprehensible as this may seem to the vanilla word, the whipping so becomes an act of love.
But what about the other side of the whip, what about the Domina and her feelings towards the slave? Well I have to say I have encountered many different perspectives of fellow Mistresses on this issue. I cannot and will not speak for all of them here. I only want to talk about Myself. And for Me it is very clear. I have a personal relation to only a very limited number of submissives who were lucky enough to get so far. In these D/s relationships I surely feel the love of the slave and I respond to it. I graciously open Myself for his feelings and encourage him to follow this path. I am deeply convinced that the slave needs that assertion from the Domina that she understands what he is telling her in his submission: “i offer myself to You, please accept my body and soul as a sacrifice.” It is then when the two souls of the D and the s can communicate without words, when they meet in a world of their own.
pink poodle
26.06.2016 @ 19:19
Stapana mea,
i thoroughly enjoyed reading this blog, an area of D/s which is so infrequently considered. i can most certainly identify with the feelings You describe. It is humbling to read Your feelings on this. i feel honoured to be in Your training my wonderful Owner.
Te venerez,
pudelul Tau
horstie fm
26.06.2016 @ 20:39
Thank You, Goddess Ezada Sinn, You give us a better understanding of Your superb Female supremacy. There is no other Female domination like Yours in the world. You appreciate Your slaves cause they are totally addicted to You. Your Female domination is not just a session, an episode, even a business. It is Your real life. A slave and devotee whom You acknowledge as Your property can be very proud to belong to You.
i adore Your Female wisdom of Your F/s relationships. i acknowledge Your intellectual superiority
Dayjob Diablo
27.06.2016 @ 00:09
Being a submissive, and being a masochist, are not necessarily mutually exclusive.
Ezada
27.06.2016 @ 00:15
Absolutely true. And that’s why a masochist (like My slave medor) was trained to accept and enjoy humiliation. It’s about pushing their limits in the direction I decid.
Boel
27.06.2016 @ 01:14
Goddess …
So nicely explained… its a pleasure to read your amazing writtings…
sit - slave of Ezada
27.06.2016 @ 02:26
Buna Zeita si Stapana
Love binds souls together, in times of sheer ecstasy or punishing cruelty. Love alone spawns forth a common core that we ascend to unimaginable heights. Being void of love, i can’t fathom how a relationship would do anything but falter and lay withering on the vine.
Goddess, Your clarification of what love means to You in a D/s relationship, simply accelerates sit’s longing to abandon myself unconditionally in surrender at Your feet.
The very apex an Owner and Her property might achieve is nullified without the common connection love blossoms forth. i have seen too many connections, D/s and even vanilla ones, in which the interchange is bi-directional yet flat. Worse it becomes one way or entirely severed and broken.
The heightened spaces in which D/s roams, requires a three dimensional connection far exceeding the bounds of classical romantic love. i believe that is true for both parties involved. When D/s love unites the Domina and Her slave in the deepest moments of light and dark, when both have veered far off what others call normal; that is where the sweetest of D/s fruits lie.
Goddess, it is those saccharine fruits that i care to ingest and sustain life from.
Ascultător sit ta
Ezada
27.06.2016 @ 11:21
I’m glad to heard you are following My blog.
sherry
21.04.2018 @ 15:03
hi
i always wonder something in my self i hope mistress you can explain as you are more experience
i like so much and into worshiping mistresses such as you i can take anything from feet to dildos and obey every rules and in the same time and that is the mystery i can make love to a woman in a normal romantic very romantic way like a gentlemen its like i have 2 personality
if im with a mistress as beautiful as you im a small thing in your hand and i can be as much man as it can be
why do you think something like this exist and how
Ezada
23.04.2018 @ 08:34
I believe each D/s relationship is different and often submissive males are interested to play the submissive role only occasionally and this is perfectly fine. Not every Dominant woman wants a 24/7 slave. As long as the Woman you are with is happy to have not only a slave to worship Her but also a lover who can satisfy Her in different ways I see absolutely no problem.
I personally prefer 24/7 Total Power Exchange relationships. This doesn’t mean My boys are kept in cages and beaten 24/7 but it means I am in control all the time. As a Dominant I decide how I want to use them and often I like to enjoy high quality social time with them.