Training My slaves
People often ask Me how I did manage to train My slaves so well. Well that is fairly easy. Just treat them as what they really are: That is as dogs of course. Every serious Domme knows that. Ever seen when a well-trained dog watches his keeper with a loving look of boundless devotion, drooling, panting, his tongue hanging out of his gob? That is where you want to end up with your slave.
Men are so simple and therefore so very much different from the dominant gender. Men need simple rules and commands that they can then follow easily. In fact, deep inside they long and crave for such orders. Short orders that have to be stamped into their brains so they never again will forget. Do not deviate when giving orders, always give your commands the same way. So when you want him to get on all fours for example use one specific word or one distinct gesture for that order and never again change that to not confuse him. Think of the drill sergeants at a US Marines training camp and why they behave how they behave. Believe Me, this is the way it works.
What is of utmost importance is your immediate reaction to your slaves actions. He must at once feel and understand whether he behaved wrong or right. Whether he pleased or displeased his Mistress.
If he behaves well and follows you “goody-goody” give him a little reward. Some people say, that it is not necessary to reward a compliant slave. They say, that the slave shall serve his Mistress but never expect anything in return. That sure sounds good. Only problem with that concept based on My long experience: It just does not work unfortunately; apart from only a very few hard boiled findom slaves maybe. Sorry, but this is how it is. Every psychologist and every dog trainer will be in perfect agreement that positive behavior needs to be reinforced by positive feelings earned in return. This is not a matter of needless generosity towards your slave. It is a matter of giving him the right direction.
The reward will reinforce the obedience of the slave because it will make him feel good and he will always want to repeat and reinforce this good feeling. The slave does cherish and worship you so much that seeing and feeling how he has successfully pleased you will be a wonderful experience for him. Doesn’t have to be a big deal, patting his head and addressing him “there is My good puppy” with a soft voice will do a tremendous job on him. The important thing is to find his weak spot and then drill yourself into that. Do you understand what I am saying? It is the clear feedback that counts.
Very slowly but steadily increase the demand for a reward. In order to not only maintain but improve his position he will try ever harder to please you. It is best when this happens without him even taking notice. his sub consciousness should do this job for you. In the beginning he will receive his “good puppy” for just getting on all fours upon your command. Then it will be necessary that he also has nicely protruded his little ass, sometime later the reward will require that backside of his to wiggle to and fro … Steadily develop him, take him ever further, this is so important to keep him alert and responsive.
As there is reward, there also is punishment to be sure. In fact in most cases the punishment will by far outweigh the reward. Your possibilities with that are endless and you will for sure already have developed your own likes and specialties in this important field. So I do not have to go into much detail here. However don´t forget to be consistent and forceful in your reactions. You will practically always be able to react immediately if you really follow your concept. If you do not have a whip or crop at hand (something that honestly never happens to Me) slap his face, use a hairbrush, a wooden spoon, kick him with your booted foot, whatever. But punish him on the spot. There might be very very rare occasions when you cannot react at once or just don´t feel like it. Then at least tell him that you have noticed his misdemeanor and that you will punish him later for that. So he will understand that he has done wrong and know what to expect (and scary expectations can nicely work on him in the meantime).
Presenting reward and punishment is fairly easy when your slave is around. It is not that easy when he is farer away so that you do not have physical contact. Especially in a long distance relationship. It is more challenging but it works as well. In fact it is quite impressive what you can achieve long distance with a really devoted slave. I for example momentarily have a lot of fun with a foreign slave that has become a real addict to Me. His weak spot is his craving for My attention. Nothing makes him more happy then if I turn to him, nothing throws him into deeper despair than My negligence. Do I make use of that? You bet.
I keep him on a sparse diet. When he has ordered something for Me from My Amazon wish list he will get an e-mail that might consist of just one ore two words as a reward. That is my patting his head from a far. My “good puppy”. I know that he then inhales My words like the drowning shipwrecked gasps for air in the stormy sea. When I am really satisfied with him, I might send him one of My video clips as reward. When he writes Me his long mails or sends Me nice pictures or some good music and I have found fun and entertainment in that, I will tease him and announce a long answer that of course will never come. This is just to keep him on his toes, attentive, hopeful, alert. I know that he will then check his mail account incessantly over days hoping to once find this so very much desired answer from Me. But of course he won´t. Why should I waste My precious time writing long mails to a slave? But then again, when I can feel that his hope starts to faint, when he gets weaker, just before his desperation becomes overwhelming, I will lift him up again. By sending him just a couple of My miracle words that I know will set him alight with a burning fire of passion and devotion.
See, it works so simple. Dogs.
Wanker Slave
20.01.2014 @ 11:46
I would love to be your dog Goddess.
tim201401
29.01.2014 @ 04:35
Dear Mistress Ezada Sinn,
Thank you for sharing your wonderful training tips. You have an amazing website and your training tips, expectations and experiences are wonderful. You truly make me believe in Female Supremacy and wanting to work hard to contribute towards seeing a Female Supremacy Society come true.
I truly hope one day to be able to serve you in person.
Best regards,
tim201401
slave cur
26.02.2014 @ 19:21
mistress this pathetic slave dog is kneeling at your superior feet,may the male sluts like us be dogs to superior female goddess like you highness
James
08.03.2014 @ 23:06
Who is Lisa Chong?? Also, I was wondering what to wear when runinng in bitter-cold Sweden – How much is sensible to put on??? You (and Lisa Chong) seems to have all the good answers.. therefore I turn to you for some good advice 🙂
Rob
22.04.2014 @ 15:49
i wud love to be your personal slave,
xavier
24.10.2014 @ 21:03
Are you taking any more dogs for training??
Tnx.
Daniel
04.02.2015 @ 09:39
We’re can I get trained to be a slave
Tamira
27.02.2015 @ 21:08
please my honey I want to be under your feet &lick your feet,,
Tamira
02.03.2015 @ 22:44
love you,,,
Ezada
03.03.2015 @ 04:53
Training lesson one – Don’t call a Domina “honey”, “babe”, “love” etc. We really don’t like it. Show respect by using “Madame”, “Mistress”, “Doamna” or at least “Miss”.
elymmo
28.03.2015 @ 01:26
Miss Ezada,
you are my goddess and I love being dominated amd humiliated by
you mistress so plz reply me insult me anything cz I love to feel your
Feet and worship them..
your slave for ever
reborn
09.04.2015 @ 00:39
What should i do to be your slave miss
jana
13.04.2015 @ 13:32
Respected and honourable mistress, please give me a chance to become your toilet slave.. please please I will pay you 80-90 dollars daily for being your toilet slave
Mark
26.04.2015 @ 06:49
You seem to have quite a following, but I’ll pass. 🙂
kemira
18.06.2015 @ 19:08
I want to become your personal slave mistress
kemira
18.06.2015 @ 19:09
Can i pls meet you mistress
alex
18.06.2015 @ 20:25
please mis
Ezada
19.06.2015 @ 10:51
I chose My personal slaves from My clients. Right now I am not looking for a new collared slave. you can meet Me for professional sessions in Germany, Dusseldorf area. Contact Me using the form on My website.
jamivkv
25.06.2015 @ 18:46
I am a masochist male like to receive caning from dominant ladies and interested in high heels licking. Are you offering this service if yes please give me the details
Aung
04.08.2015 @ 10:13
Mistress, I would like to be your slave.
roz
08.08.2015 @ 21:58
Respected madam,
I am thirsting for your words. i want to be yours for
Ever.Ill do anythin for you.please mistress.
kelly bulanek
13.08.2015 @ 21:54
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Ezada
13.08.2015 @ 22:00
I think you are a male. A stupid one.
virat
24.08.2015 @ 10:18
mistress please let me be your slave
I will do things as you say
Pete
30.12.2015 @ 12:06
I am quite amazed by some of the above comments. It’s no wonder why the Female of our species are the Superior ones.
Rob Allen
25.05.2016 @ 16:27
Let me taste that juice Mesohungry pussy slave
Ann Foxgold
18.06.2017 @ 04:42
I recently asked for a daddy. I got a guy that agreed, but he wants me to be his mummy, more than I want pain and sex. He’s full into pain and humiliation. Whereas I although will accept and enjoy giving him pain, will give me pleasure in not having to accept sex. I want to be spanked when I’m naughty. I can’t help feeling that I’m being used. My passion hasn’t come into it. I’m thirty years his senior. I have my own issues. He doesn’t want to understand that. He found out I have four adult kids. He demands to meet them. I’d kill someone before letting them get hurt. Including him. Am I nuts, or do I let my sadistic violent nature to the fore, and make him wish he’d never met me. Even coppers are afraid of my temper.
Ezada
18.06.2017 @ 04:56
I don’t understand your comment. If your relationship doesn’t satisfy your needs just find another another person to share your life with.
Babloo john
27.10.2020 @ 17:44
Godess, I am male but struggling with double thoughts. I see lot of femdom stuffs, especially your artucles really turn me on to be dog to girls but same time I am thinking that male should not be like that.
But can’t control my desire to be a naked girlish slave dog for females.
Pls advise if this thought is the true nature of me, should i just become a girlish naked slave dog for girls? Confused.