I received a beautiful long email from a man in his 20’s who is struggling to accept his inclination towards a female led relationship. These are My advices for him and other men like him. Watch the video for free on YouTube
“Hello Goddess Ezada, i discovered BDSM when i start looking at your videos, you are a sublime dominatrix, i love to be dominated since i’m 18 years old, in face of you i think i will bow to you and lick your feet i would love to be fucked so hard by you Mistress, my girlfriend is Romanian just like you she is pretty dominant girl, i told her that i would love to lick her feet and kissing them, she will fuck me with strapon soon, what can i do to be more submissive?”
I am pleased to hear that My clips inspired you. However, I noticed how focused you are on your own fantasies. you mention how much you want to be pegged and to worship feet. I respect your fantasies but if you want to be “more submissive” you must start listening more to your girfriend fantasies and try to be less focused on yours. Discuss with Her about what you like, ask Her about how She likes to explore Her sexuality. I found that a good way to try and explore is to watch porn together. Show Her clips that you like and ask Her to share clips that She likes. Negotiate, be open and see where you two can meet in your fantasies.
“I was curious to ask you what the benefits of long term chastity is for us males. And how long it usually takes to feel/see the effects?”
Personally I don’t advocate “long term chastity”, but “orgasm control”. The difference between the two being that regular tease and denial sessions and occasional releases are the key to keeping the sexual interest up, therefore the sexual frustration and desire. Long term chastity with no tease and denial and with absolutely no release will lower the sexual desire and in time can cause temporary impotence. These effects may happen as soon as a couple of weeks, but this depends very much of the individual (his libido, his age, his sexual and non-sexual habits etc). One will start having less and less erections and overall a diminished desire for sex. But of course, this happens with or without a chastity device, as long as the sexuality is not stimulated at all.
But the whole idea behind Femdom orgasm control is for the Woman to take control over the sexuality of Her partner, to use his sexual desire to make him more obedient. The true benefits of orgasm control is when a partner that you are sexually attracted to will keep the key from your chastity and will decide for you how long you will stay locked, when you should be teased, when you are allowed to cum and how. Of course, one can wear a chastity, but the whole idea is to give that control to someone else.
“Dear Goddess Ezada, I’m curious and I mean this respectfully, why dominate when there can be equality? Doesn’t it get boring without a strong man like myself telling you “no”, once in a while?”
Since I started to date, in My teenage years, I have had relationships with different types of people. I have enough experience to know the dynamic that works best for Me and fulfills My desires. I only like partners who are very obedient and are happy to give Me total control over their lives, not only sexually, but especially in the everyday life. I have zero interest in a relationship based on equality or brats who are trying to make Me play by their rules.
But My desire to be in total control over My partner doesn’t mean I do not care, love and respect him. Only people with great qualities and integrity can become a part of My harem. And those who are worthy of being Mine are happy to offer Me total control over them. It is a mutually beneficial relationship.